Having been a BNI member for almost 3 years, I too was skeptical in the beginning with referrals, but after having built up so many valuable relationships with fellow members in my BNI chapter and beyond it seems to have paid off. Both my clients and friends & family relish the fact that they can call me up and ask me to put them in touch with someone. It’s also a great feeling knowing you can help others with trustful contacts!

Its better than passing a referral to someone for a job tht was done as a once off and that job was great, but then the next job was a botched job they did for your friend. IN a networking environment people would feel rather embarrassed if they had done a bad job, and it certainly shows.

If I felt that the person is going to do a great job then I refer them in total confidence. There are the few you worry about, but that would be the same for any form of networking. Perhaps you should come and see how our chapter works and get a good idea of how strong relationships within a networking group actually do work. Or just visit our chapter blog http://www.bnifortune.blogspot.com – we all work for each other, to help each other.

Take care!

I am a BNI newby and the one thing we are constantly told is “have 1 to 1’s”, “get to know the other people in your chapter”, “make referrals to those you like and trust”. These all support the basic concept of your post.

When you make a recommendation, you are putting your reputation on the line. If you have used the services of the individual, then great, but you can’t personally ‘test out’ each member of the chapter, so you are reliant on getting to know them and speaking to others in the group who have used them. Get testimonials.

I have been given several recommendations where people have said, “know this person, like them, but never used their services” – that’s the honest way to do it. Likewise, “the work is amazing, but you have to wait for him as he is so good” – it is then up to the individual if they want to use your referral or not.

I can also relate to Andy’s comment above. I have had people recommend me on ecademy and I don’t even know them – I don’t actually want them to recommend me!

Network, refer, but keep it legitimate.

Donna

Interesting post. Grouping online networking with organisations like BNI is a strange stance to start with. BNI is built on the strength of the relationships its members develop by getting to know each other and meeting on a regular basis. Online networking cannot develop the same kind of relationships – although it can be an excellent way to start a dialogue which could develop if you choose to take it off-line.

I would never recommend a BNI member just because they are a member. They have to build credibility before I will risk mine by recommending them.

As membership of BNI is subject to a vigilant process of selection (inlcuding references), and renewal is based on your credibility and reputation – built on your performance – I am confident that these are people I should build relationships with, and over time I will be happy to recommend them and hope they do the same.

It is a shame you have written-off such an excellent source of reliable, like-minded, committed business people. They have helped me develop a successful, thriving business – and done my credibility the world of good.

Regards

Dinah Liversidge

Your post is interesting but I think it does you more harm than good. You can’t blanket every one in general terms and it says something about your own judgement.

I have been a member of BNI for 6 years and would never recommend someone I didn’t trust just to pass a referral. My credibility is too important to me and I just wouldn’t risk it.

That’s not to say that sometimes members don’t, or that there are on occasion not so good businesses as part of BNI, but both don’t tend to stay members very long.

As to online groups, well I would certainly need more than one person saying another person is great. Let’s face it you can say anything online. I would need a recommendation from someone I trusted first – online or in fact in BNI.

Cheers,

David Wimblett

In my monthly Ezine I have a ‘Louise Recommends’ section and only those products or services that have impressed me make it in there. I expect high quality and high value and want the same for my subscribers.

Thanks for raising the subject in your post.

When I’m asked for a recommendation or a referral I will always make clear whether or not I have used the service in question and that my circumstances may well be different to those of the person seeking my input.

It works the other way round too. I’m often asked how I can be sure as to whether the tax adviser members of the Tax Advice Network are any good. I explain that I’ve personally interviewed them and that I have made a judgment. Their performance reflects on the Tax Advice Network and we do provide a feedback facility on their profile pages.

But much as I would like to do so, I will not be underwriting their advice. They remain independent tax advisers and responsible for their own work. This is one of the attractions of using our website rather than going out to a large tax consultancy that imposes layers of reviewers (and costs) on all work or where you just find a random tax adviser with no recognised or current endorsement. Each to their own.

Unfortunately there is a lot of truth in what you have said. People will ask to be recommended on social networks. Read the list of testimonials on some Ecademy profiles and you can recognise the lack of foundation on which these recommendations are offered.

For that reason, there is perhaps a danger in basing a decision just on social network recommendations. They are, however, a good starting point. It is surely good practice to do the proper homework before accepting a recommendation from a virtual contact.

While your comment on BNI is based on reason, it is perhaps a tad too general and, as a result, unfair. No one should refer someone else just because they are in the same group but they do need to be open to look out for opportunities for them.

I think there is a big difference between what I call a ‘qualified’ and ‘unqualified’ referral. A qualified one may be along the lines of:

“This person is in my networking group and I think they help in this area”.

Whereas, an unqualified referral is for someone you know, like and trust well:

“You really need to use xxx, they are excellent.”

Your last point is the key. It’s the recommender/referrer’s reputation on the line. If you are making the recommendation, be very clear in your language about how strongly you are recommending.

And if you act on such a recommendation from someone else, do your homework.

How you police that is another matter but I am sure it’s possible.

I cringe when I see forum members offering accountancy advice when they aren’t accountants! Also the reader does not consider that there will be no come back if the advice is incorrect (even if an accountant is advising)!

Of course I do not know what local rules were applied to any BNI chapter you visited or were a member of, but in our chapter there was no hard and fast rule that you had to pass slips of paper each month. If anything, there was a focus on quality rather than quantity.

Otherwise, your post is right on the money :).

It may be true that some unscrupulous people use Twitter and other social networking sites to seek untrue recommendations or testimonials, but equally there are many people on these sites that know each other, and have done work with one another, that legitimately refer clients to one another.

Also, I cannot comment on BNI, however, at BRX we urge all our members to actively work with one another, to try one another services, to hold one-2-one meetings to discuss each others services, and get to know each other on a social level as well as business. In this way we get to know each others businesses to a degree that we can refer clients to one another.

I have been a member of BRX for 5 years now, and it is true that some members do not offer the level of service that my clients deserve, and where that is the case, I do not refer to that member.

I believe the difference between BNI and BRX is that referrals are required at BNI, whereas at BRX they are not. Of course it is nice to provide a referral, but if none are forthcoming, then that is fine too.

Paul Skinner
BRX Basingstoke